December 2018 - Presley's Diary

Saturday, December 15, 2018

Remembering Christmas 2009

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Remembering Christmas 2009

I was going through some family photos trying to organize my PC and stumbled across a few Christmas photos I just had to share. This photos are from 2009, before AJ was born. It was just my Princess Rayleen and my son Chaz. We lived as a family of 4 in a 2 bedroom, 2 story condo near RCC. There were literally over 100 Presents under the tree and along the wall. 95% of those presents were for my two children and these gifts were the ones they decided to open early on Christmas Eve.

Those faces melt my heart and I have to thank God for loving me enough to allow us to enjoy that moment. My life has been a roller coaster ride but obviously these Kodak moments captured something special. The joy in these pictures are priceless. It's a worry free joy. A joy of privilege accompanied by an abundance of love. We both worked 2 jobs while sharing one vehicle yet somehow even though we never turned that condo into a home we were able to succeed together in providing our children an amazing Christmas worth remembering.

I was joking with my son about this photo because every single one of those presents happened to be a toy of some sort. Not a single pack of socks, No underwear. Not even a winter sweater. Just toys! We spoiled them that year and we gave our children a better childhood that we had. Even if no other Christmas could ever compare, the fact that we had such an awesome 2009 should be forever appreciated. So many children and families across the globe have been less fortunate but for some Godly reason our reality in 2009 was Blessed.

I hope I never forget this day. I pray these memories are forever engraved in my memory. I want to reflect upon times like this with I'm depressed, in pain... or dying. I hope this kids can do the same. No matter what, these kids will remember Mom and Dad loved them. We often failed but we did try our best and we are all better off because of that love and effort.






Wednesday, December 5, 2018

How I Meet Dr Diaz

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How I Meet Dr Diaz

For almost 15 years I had severe migraines. The type that can only be described as suicidal. I remember thinking to myself, "This must have been what Junior Seau felt like" as I assumed that my pain was due to a life full of head trauma. It got so bad I wanted to jump off the top of Mt Rubidoux but I didn't So maybe the late great Charger linebacker was dealing with something worse. I had X-rays, then I had Cat Scans and the Doctors literally tried to prescribe me an experimental drug which I refused to take. They had know idea what was wrong with me but wanted to prescribe me drugs. How messed up is that? Not me, I'm not the one. So I continued to live with the pain until I had my wisdom teeth extracted.

In August 2016 one of my teeth broke and exposed the nerve making it hard to eat. I usually avoid medical treatment unless it's an emergency. This was an emergency because It was stopping me from eating. So at 34 years old I was barely getting my wisdom teeth pulled and I can't help but assume, that would have turned out different if I had parents that loved me. It never dawned on me that my wisdom teeth were the cause of my migraines but after the extraction, my suicidal migraines never returned. It took months to realize that the migraines were truly gone but considering the timing I can assure you my level 9 migraines were caused by my oversized 34 year old wisdom teeth. Thank God my Obama care covered the dental surgery. God knows that if I wasn't able to get my wisdom teeth pulled that day, my life would have been totally different today.

I think I almost died that day. My dental surgery was a nightmare. I had requested to be put to sleep for the surgery because of my anxiety but I also wanted to avoid the memory of them drilling into my grill for a prolonged time. I had surgery on my ear as a child and I remember it vividly and I felt comfortable being put to sleep but this experience was completely different.

For some reason I woke up in the middle of the surgery. The anesthesia didn't work properly and wore off rather quickly. I do a have semi insomniac sleeping disorder but I never expected to wake up in the middle of this surgery. I woke up freaked out, in a panic with increasing anxiety. The anesthesia had me feeling like I was half dead... or in the process of dying. I remember crying and telling my mind to take control of my body. I was scared of dying and it got worse. I began to feel something lodged in my throat. I had no idea what it was and later found out it was a protective cloth used to catch debris and broken teeth from going down my throat during the surgery. It wasn't choking me but it was slowing down my breathing while my anxiety was trying to force me to breathe heavier. I was freaking out!

By this time I was asking or maybe even crying for help. It really was a nightmare. This surgery had gone far worse than expected and just when I felt like caving in, I heard the most angelic calming and soothing voice tell me " Mr. Presley, your at the dental office getting your wisdom teeth pulled". She carried on saying "everything is going to be alright, just calm down. Stop fighting us." as she held my hands to keep us all safe.

I did calm down thanks to her but I was pissed off. I wasn't fighting anyone. I was scared... there is a difference and it took someone in another room, working on another patient to calm me down. Then my angel left me as they tried to resume the surgery while I was still awake. So now I'm even more angry and I refused to let them continue. I couldn't feel any pain but I still felt the drilling, the tugging and the pulling. I did not want to so I made them put me back to sleep.

Finally the surgery was complete. I remember still being faded, light headed and with blurry vision when they escorted me out. I had some lady pushing me in a wheel chair toward the exit and I remember making them all laugh as I told them I understood why they were kicking me out the back door. ( lol everyone goes out the back door ) I was told needed a driver to drive me home post surgery due to the effects of the anesthesia. I was counting on Yolie to take care of me for the weekend but she really let me down and we never really spoke much after that because of it. So I took my little cousin (Princess Presley, the only female Presley left on our side of the family) to pretend to drive me home. I actually had to pay her plus I gave her a brand dresser I bought on sale from Kmart the week before. My cousin didn't drive me home, she didn't even have her drivers license but I had no one else to ask and she was unemployed at the time. Actually I drove her to my storage then home to her sisters apartment in Colton before I checked myself in a Motel 6.

I spent the whole weekend in the Motel 6. It was like a bed rest weekend for me, recovering from the surgery. I survived of soup and Juice It Up smoothies. It takes a lot to keep me down. I don't get sick often but when I get really sick, I'm like a big baby. I get really needy and this was just as bad but I had no one to take care of me. I didn't want to talk, interact with people or even try to work... I just wanted to recover and put this behind me. Yolie let me down, my baby mama only stopped by the drop off soup and I was back to being alone in the world. So that Sunday morning around 5am I sent a message to Dr. Diaz on the POF dating app. I remember swiping right because she was cute and nearby but that is common for me because I never really had a type. I don't swipe right because of age, religious beliefs, careers or size. In fact her profile said she was a bartender lol. So I thought Dr. was just for fun. Regardless we ended up chatting that day.

The bar tending was done on the side, mostly weekends, it was a mobile service she created, so it was nice to see she had a little hustle in her. Being an entrepreneur myself it has been important to find someone on my level. It was actually labor day weekend So Dr. Diaz had the entire weekend off as well and it felt like we spent the weekend together, even thou we still had not met. We communicated by text since my mouth was swollen shut. We chatted about everything and we never ran out of much to say. The vibe was right and I knew I wanted to meet her as soon as possible.

Monday morning rolls around and I am close to a hundred percent. Feeling better physically and mentally as I survived the weekend. Now I am looking forward to returning to work and I shared that feeling with Dr. Diaz. I told her " I can't wait to go back to work tomorrow. I have been on bed rest the entire weekend. I had my wisdom teeth pulled and it was a nightmare!"

Her response was straight out of a movie scene. "Wait a minute! What!? Where do you have your teeth pulled? I replied by telling her and it took her breathe away. " Oh my God" she said "I am the one that held your hands and asked you to calm down." Dr Diaz wasn't just a Bartender but she is truly a wonder woman dental surgeon and the sweet calming voice that kept my mind from turning into Scarecrow's was actually hers. We were both stunned. Our connection was already instant and progressing. So for us to realize this after the fact made us feel like it was destiny. Here we are chatting it up on a dating app when we already crossed each others path under extreme circumstances. I made her laugh by telling her " well you seen me at my worst( crazy, dramatic, drugged up, unshaven. lol)... would you like to see me at my best?" She said Yes and agreed to meet me soon after that if I promised her I wouldn't be "Combative". LMAO!